“We indians simply sat and smoked the pipe. Very quickly, on a very deep level you got to know people..”
I look around and notice things.
Too me it seems as if most of the world has gone crazy. Trading what is natural and real and what is right in front of them, to chase something that they never seem to reach.
A bit about the shallow and the deep.
Years ago I was a regional assistant director in one of the big networking organizations. They taught us to have people use a formula to get to know one another. Shallow.
Here is what professional networkers were taught to do
The F.O.R.M. method.
Family: “Are you married? Do you have any kids?”
Occupation: “What do you do for a living?”
Recreation: “What do you do for fun?”
Move on. (You’ve gathered INFORMATION, now it’s time to trade cards, make notes, and move on to the next new friend.)
Total time invested, maybe 7 minutes max.
Real connection made? Hardly
Something beautiful…
The Sacred Pipe Alternative.
The Sacred Pipe was smoked often in an Indian’s life. One of the key times we smoke is when you met someone you wanted to get to know better.
Join me for a moment. Imagine…
Two men walking along a path. They see each other at a distance. As they get closer, one gestures to the other, they both stop, one of them offers tobacco, the other loads it into his pipe. The pipe is smoked and shared.
About 30 to 90 minutes are spent together, sharing life, sharing tobacco. It begins with a silent moment, then the lighting of tobacco. Sitting, mostly in silence, just being together. Connecting beyond words. Noticing what shows up. Noticing the feelings inside. Noticing each other.
We here share tobacco with many people. Most of the time it’s an invitation to sit and enjoy a cigar together. It could be with someone we meet, after we eat lunch in the park. It could be after a day of training a group. During that time together, we may share a story or two, but mostly we share lots of quiet time together.
While smoking what my elders call “the thank you plant”, we get to know each other at the level of essence rather quickly.
You get to share YOU, not what you or I do, not what you or I have, not what you or I are chasing.
You get to share, and to be with you.
It’s like holding hands with the divine within. It’s like holding hands with the divine within you and within them.
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Mr. Twenty Twenty
Wow! It is amazing how often what you write is directly related to what I am either experiencing or working out in some way. Recently I have joined an MLM, nice product but doing it to make money to have freedom.
Our upline appears to have it all in terms of success, but all they talk about is chasing, going places, doing; it has nothing to do with being, sitting, knowing.
Their’s is about experiencing the better things in life.
Wow!. Sure in this society and economy they are going to get allot of people to join and spend and make money but…at what cost?
What is it they are getting in return on their investment of time?
They will most likely meet a great many people and not know one of them. I know. I have experienced it.
What is the bottomline when it comes to most of these Network Marketing? Are you ready to join?
That’s enough for now…
Mr. 2020,
I’m pretty sure I’ve never been a really good networker, because all of those “formulas”, those pat questions and answers, were not only fake to me, but down right boring. I really do thank you for writing this, because this is the kind of networking that I can relate to. Real. Genuine. In the moment. Agenda free.
Blessings to you,
Todd
@Thomas Pranio
Hi Thomas,
Those who know the ancient ways, the way of the scout, live with that balance you mention.
The skills to “survive” in the world they live in, and the skills of “the spirit” so that living really is fulfilling.
Thanks for being here mate!
Twenty Twenty
Way Of The Scout
@Todd Silva
Hi Todd,
Agreed. I suck at networking, but still manage to really get to know people. Go figure. It was a challenge trying to “teach” what they wanted taught, when the reason why they hired me, was because I was “a natural” at getting to know people.
Thank you for being genuine and for being so giving.
Twenty Twenty
Way Of The Scout
Marketer claims tobacco smoking beats networking…
Tobacco smoking beats networking? Smoking tobacco leads to friendship? Let me know what you think!…